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My friend is tall, white and male and an 8 on the beauty scale. He literally gets ahead in life with more promotions, free stuff and jumps in queues. There is more, but being attractive does have advantages, FOR A MAN. Life is easier. He also has a very average (and generic) sounding name which helps in Western society.

This superficial society sucks. A woman with the same traits will never be treated the same way and that's depressing AF.

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Feb 20, 2023Liked by Katie Jgln

Oooooh, THANK YOU! for this article!

First,

is the pic included with the article you? I have/had no idea what you look like although I'm PRETTY (pun alert!) sure you have referred to your looks or looks in general in other articles. Anyway, I'm trying to say in my tired rambly way I knew you were good looking but Holy God. I'm not gay but if we were stranded for a looong time together on a deserted island....crimony, maybe not even that long, more like a stuck elevator. Hahahaha sorry, I cracked myself up. And actually, you know, it's more your brains, confidence, writing style and attitude that attract me anyway. Angelina Jolie is the only other "stuck elevator" lady I can think of.

Meanwhile back at the bunny ranch, I've never been your level of fuckable. By that I mean the trophy standards. I WISH I had a blowjob face. Wow that felt icky even writing it. Blech I just know kissing men with fuller lips, puffy pouters, feels great so it stands to reason fuller lips...you get me. But hey, I've got along without em for umpteen years, it's all in how you use it. Lol I jest at wanting other women's parts but in reality it's a low down dirty jealous scummy green game. It hit me hard (pun alert!) when you said other women are so ready to throw those stones at women they deem prettier than they are. As I said I'm not trophy material but in my heyday I had no problems getting uh, dates. And oh my God have some stones smashed me right in my thin lipped face! And I was too dumb to duck for awhile. Still am sometimes. You know why Katie? It's just so fucking UNEXPECTED. Tell me please, are these women you dont even know!? Women you barely know!? Waitresses or vet techs or co-workers ? While you're just carrying on in your day? Picking up your dog? Ordering some coffee? WTF mam? Just nasty, nasty females. And oh, it's not just your looks Katie. You walk with a presence, you smile, you are happy, self-assured, glad to be doing what your doing. Welllll FUCK ALL THAT KATIE. Lol Here comes some woman you barely know who was bullied in high school (about the EXACT opposite of what YOU were tortured with and YEAH being sexually objectified constantly is it's own special hell) to tear you down however possible. To throw those fucking flaming hate stones. She hates EVERYTHING about you and she doesn't even know you! And you want to know what the sad thing is? While you were being cornered by your horny math teacher who threatened to flunk you unless you used your "blowjob face" running his greasy ruler up your thigh in the coat closet telling you how mature you are (for 12!!!!) While the boys were forcefully grabbing your breasts leaving bruises and high fiving each other, while you were having your blowjob face stuffed in the toilet by jealous girls SHE was being ridiculed for being fat and ugly and worthless and called a cow and having sandwiches thrown at her in the lunchroom and having her breasts forcefully grabbed and called udders while boys high fived themselves. SIGH But hey Katie that was YOUR FAULT for being everything she was never going to be. It sickens and saddens me. But, you know, shes still gonna spit in your fucking coffee to impress the guy shes never gonna have who is drooling over you. REALLY LADIES? WE CANT BE BETTER THAN THIS?? And you say you are kinda looking forward to being not so hot? Well from a 52 year old, former ok looking, gained 20 lbs( hey I finally have boobs!!) woman..you tell ME when that's gonna be. My realtor, husband's doctor and brother in law still, STILL talk to my tits and look squarely at my crotch when I stand up. Are they looking for camel toe?? Still saunter up to me at meetings/family gatherings like I'm at a bar and tell me I look "nice" while staring at the naughty bits. (Well they ARE bigger now lol) Sigh I can barely hear them over the cellulite and bags but I wish you all the luck in the world. I'm sending this article to every woman I know. That's a total of 2. Sigh Wait, Mom makes 3. I would love to have more girlfriends and I KNOW there are great women out there who dont feel the need to put other women down to lift themselves up. I just havent figured out where to look I guess. Every club I go to it seems I'm hanging with the ladies and as soon as a dude walks in BAM everything goes to competitive with warp speed. Hair touching/swishing, lip licking, posing( tits out, legs semi crossed) all starts. The feel in the room is almost palpable. Voices get higher, some softer. Whatever works for you. God forbid if hes good looking. Shoot me. Sigh. Now I'm just singing to the choir. But one more thing, pointing this behavior out is a sure way to make enemies. Lol Just wanted to give you a heads up Katie. Hahahaha

But really. Its lonely.

Thanks again for the great article. I could talk about this for pages. Keep that gorgeous head held high and never let those fucking bitches get you down.

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Mar 17, 2023Liked by Katie Jgln

My first wife had been in Playboy when she was 19, so definitely near the top of the pyramid, but it was such a double-edged sword that we used to call it "the beauty curse" for all the reasons you brilliantly outline. She would often pine "I can't wait until I'm not a hot chick anymore" because the constant unwanted attention as well as the uncertainty over who was giving her attention because of her looks versus her character made figuring out who the real friends were challenging.

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Mar 3, 2023Liked by Katie Jgln

As a male, i can confirm it's all true. The part where we don't listen to you, it's not true for all of us. Some won't care what you say because all they wanna do is fuck you, and get to the next one, but some will actually listen to you because maybe they wanna be with you for the rest of their lives.

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Manospherians are claiming that women (but they really mean *attractive* women live the best lives because they get free stuff all the time and literally never have to work a job in their lives. They get "flewed out" to Dubai to be paid thousands if not millions of dollars to live luxuriously with billionaire oil sheiks in exchanged for simply having sex, and who doesn't love sex? These manospherians dream of living such a life, but as a man, being "flewed out" by wealthy (and attractive, of course) women and being a "kept boyfriend" in exchange for sex. They lament that this opportunity isn't offered to them. So this is their basic spin on sexual exploitation.

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I love the quote at the end. Thank you for a clear and honest window into your world. Each person's personhood is by far their most valuable trait. It would be great if more people were aware of this, and if they are aware of it abstractly, were better at conveying that in practice.

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But can they cook, clean better than me? I suck at both and most hot chicks can not do either better than me. Can they have a decent somewhat intellectual conversation? - Do they like watching movies that make one think? I can hang with females that I do not want sex from - and do those things but feel pressure to eventually be romantically involve with chicks I have no interest in being romantically involved with .....

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